About Coaching @ 'The Fluid You'
"To excel at the highest level, you need to believe in yourself, and hands down, one of the biggest contributors to my self-confidence has been private coaching" - Stephen Curry, NBA player
Some Frequently-Asked Questions and Answers
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Q: What is the purpose of personal coaching? What can I achieve with it?
A: Coaching​ aims to unlock your genuine and full potential by deepening your awareness and building new habits, to elevate you towards your goals and dreams. Coaching helps you unlock what feels locked or stagnant, and in doing that it catalyses you to your show up as your best possible self across all areas of life. Around the world, millions of people have attained higher and deeper levels of happiness, success, fulfilment, sense of purpose and direction, harmonious relationships, resilience, mental and emotional flexibility, and many other benefits through personal coaching programs. Coaching is both wonderful self-care, as well as an investment in yourself like no other. A well-built coaching program with a professional coach is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.
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Q: What kind of coaching do you offer at The Fluid You?
A: True to my Integral Coaching training and certification, my premise is to catalyse your development integrally across multiple domains of life: professional, personal, relational, social, spiritual and others. Coaching at The Fluid You engages 'the whole person' to build new skills and capabilities that will continue to transform and elevate you well beyond the duration of the program itself.
Q: What is Integral Coaching and how is it different from other kinds of coaching?
A: As an ever-evolving methodology, Integral Coaching is intended to bring out one's most comprehensive response to a complex life. The word integral refers to the whole, multi-perspective, multi-dimensional, inclusive, non-marginalising approach to humans' development. Integral Coaching focuses on the individuality and uniqueness of each person, while also attending to the social contexts s/he is rooted in. Desired direction of one's journey is explored through the lenses of cognitive, emotional, somatic, and other domains. The Integral Coaching program has a dual focus on 1) practicality (finding quick solutions/ tools to the client's challenges) and 2) deep, sustainable transformation (towards the future desired self). Integral coaching is hardwired in its foundation and subsequent development in neuroscience, psychology, behavioural science, biology, sociology, and philosophy.
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Q: Should I have a coaching topic in mind when I start a program?
A: The coaching topic(s) you would like to focus on as you start the program is an important focus element, but the direction, purpose and outcomes of a well-designed and executed coaching program is much wider and deeper than the initial coaching topic.
As an example, you may want to advance yourself in building effective network and mastering relationships at work. Through our work together, you will likely see that the interpersonal skills you build to advance your career will also have positive impact on other aspects of life such as family or social relationships. In the process, you may also discover that your challenges in the interpersonal domain stem from your self-limiting cognitive beliefs, which, if addressed, could likely advance your progress.
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Q: What is crucial to the success of a coaching program? What do I need to have or do to benefit from professional coaching?
A: No matter where you start, how difficult or trivial your issues are, how little or ample time you have for your personal development, there are two key factors to the success of your transformation: your willingness and your vulnerability.
You need to be willing: Transformation is hard work. It will take desire, effort, time and focus. It will also be the best thing you will ever have done. Transformation demands your commitment to a different way of being and living than today. That commitment is the willingness.
You need to be vulnerable: Vulnerabilities are those parts of yourself that you often do not like. You may think of them as weaknesses or imperfections. It is completely normal to ignore, avoid, hide these vulnerabilities, ‘the world out there’ does not tolerate weaknesses. True and long-lasting transformation, however, requires us to undress, uncover, and unfilter, what the world and life have taught us to dress, filter, and cover. Vulnerability is not a weakness; it is the birthplace of openness, strength, love, joy, belonging, empathy, courage, and creativity. In a transformational coaching program, your vulnerability is the essential supercharger of your journey.
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Q: What is the role of the coach in the program?
A: My first and foremost role as a coach is to create a space of trust and compassion for my client. There can never be any place for any judgement in that space.
Within that safe space, my role is to invite you to picture your 'future self' that you want to attain: Your goals, your purpose, how you want to show up in the world. I help you to discover and polish your strengths, which are your superpowers in reaching your future self. I help you discover what is standing in your way and keeping you away from reaching your goals. We also identify the skills for you to develop or improve, to reach your goals. Then, we co-create awareness and new habit-building practises and exercises that will help you build those skills and leap into your transformation, towards your desired future self. Needless to say, every coaching client is unique and so is every coaching session and transformation plan.
While a 'transformation plan' with clear purpose and outcomes as explained is crucial in a coaching program, my first and foremost priority in each session is to meet you where you are. That means, being there for you, listening to what you freshly bring to each session, even when it seems 'not fitting' or irrelevant to the agreed plan.
It is often said that transformation is part art, part science. While the transformation plan with measurable outcomes is the science part, the need for fluidity, spontaneity and flexibility is where the coach brings in the art.
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Q: How long is a coaching program? How often are the sessions conducted?
A: The duration of the program varies, depending on the needs and goals of the client. We agree at the beginning of a program on expected number of sessions (10-15 sessions is the most common range), with the understanding that this may change based on progress on desired outcomes.
Again, while varying between clients, we target to have a session every 2-3 weeks. Each session is 1 to 1.5 hours long.
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Q: Where are the sessions conducted?
A: All sessions are done virtually through Zoom or Skype. It is also common to have short phone conversations ​between sessions, when the client has a pressing question or situation.
I have clients from several different countries and virtual meeting technologies work wonderfully well. This said, for clients based in or frequently travelling to London, it is also possible to have face-to-face sessions, when it is safe to do so again.
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Q: What are your views on confidentiality of the clients and the coaching sessions?
A: As an accredited member of ICF (International Coach Federation), I am committed to and bound by its Code of Ethics. Everything about my clients and their coaching programs are held strictly and completely confidential. I do not share any part of my clients’ identities with anyone, though they are of course free to share any part of their experience as they wish. I do not record the sessions on voice or video, though my clients are welcome to do this, should they wish.
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For any further questions or inquiries, do not hesitate to contact me via email.
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